The struggle is real, I just snuck off the couch next to my sleeping baby and husband to eat ice cream straight out of the container. I’ve learned how to walk around the house without making a peep. While I was eating ice cream I was thinking about really how much I’ve learned and changed in this past month from bringing my little baby into this world. Mom Kyli is a completely different person than Regular Kyli, but I love my new identity and wouldn’t change anything about it ;)
Without further ado, here are 7 things I’ve learned about being a mom in one month.
Seriously, people say “sleep when the baby does“ and you’re like obvi I’m going to sleep when he sleeps but DO IT. It sounds so much easier said than done. That load of laundry CAN wait, those dishes CAN wait.. if your baby is sleeping then for the love of God sleep because you do not know when the next time is you’ll get a little shut eye and for how long.
-Stop worrying what your body looks like
Your baby and partner still love you. You literally brought a tiny human into the world, your belly is gonna be a little stretched, BFD. Love your body and what it gave you, you’ll get back to normal when you’re ready. And if you are ready, there’s fun baby work outs you can do to get your foot in the door.
-Your baby is going to cry
There are going to be time you feel like your baby is crying for no reason (he probably is) and that’s okay. Babies cry. Eat, sleep, poop, cry. The crying will stop but in the mean time as long as you have the 4 main needs met -fed, burped, changed, cuddled- then your baby is most likely tired and fighting sleep because they just want to spend time with you ;) just love them and don’t forget they are just babies doing what babies do.
-Swaddling saves lives
Crying baby? Swaddle. Tired baby? Swaddle. Happy baby? Swaddle. Babies love the feeling of being swaddled, it reminds them of their previous home - the womb. Linkyn LOVES being swaddled, if he’s having a crying episode it ALWAYS helps. If you’re at your wits end of hearing that precious baby cry, try it and see if it makes a difference! These swaddles are great and easy to use, I got them as a gift at my baby shower and they’ve changed my life!!
-Ask for help
Your support system is there for you to do just that, support you. So let them. Like I mentioned earlier how the laundry and dishes can wait? Let your support system help you with it. Don’t be too proud to ask for help or to accept help. They really are happy to do it as much as you think they will think it’s a hassle. You’re a mom, not a superwoman. You’re allowed to have help.
-Don’t forget to take care of yourself
You have a new life you’re spending every waking moment with to make sure his needs are met. But what about you? You’re still a human being and have needs to. You still need to wash your hair after the 7th day has passed and you’re feeling like a greaseball. You still need to eat & when I say eat I don’t mean whatever you can find in the pantry that’s quick and easy, you deserve good meals (ask a family or friend to help OR refer to my freezer meal post from a few weeks before my due date)
-Breastfeeding is hard
It’s incredibly hard and I have a bountiful milk supply. You never think about how hard it is when you’re pregnant you’re only thinking about all of the good things that breastfeeding and breast milk can give your baby. When the time comes, it hurts at first and it’s difficult to stick with it. But sticking with it for as long as you can is SO WORTH IT. There have been times I have wanted to give up and say never mind this is too hard or it’s too much but I’m so happy I didn’t. If my milk dried up that’s a different story but with my milk still coming in at a crazy amount, I talked myself off the ledge plenty of times but looking back - I made it and I can still do it. The benefits outweighs the suckiness so try to push through to that year. And if you don’t, DO NOT BEAT YOURSELF UP ABOUT IT. Fed is best.
Also, here is a picture of my little Link because why not? <3
Well there ya have it! Moms - feel free to comment anything you think should be added to my list! The more the merrier :)